Jana Hocking, a popular columnist, recently explored a surprising topic after talking with her social media followers.
In one conversation, she found a common theme: many men, who identify as straight, secretly have s**ual encounters with other men while keeping it from their wives or girlfriends.
Hocking’s inbox quickly filled with confessions about hidden affairs.
Many of these stories involved men hooking up with male colleagues, friends, or strangers. The trend seemed so widespread that she shared her findings with MailOnline.
One man, who seemed like a typical straight guy—into fitness and sports—casually admitted he had received oral s from another man at a wedding.**
He showed little remorse, highlighting how some men keep these experiences secret from their partners.
Curious about the impact, Hocking spoke with women who had unknowingly been in relationships with men leading these double lives.
Many women were shocked and hurt when they discovered their partners’ infidelity with other men.
Sophie, 29, shared her story of how she found out about her boyfriend Nick’s secret.
It started with a bank charge from a gay bar. At first, Nick denied it, but Sophie grew suspicious. Later, she found explicit Snapchat messages between him and another man. Nick admitted he was exploring his s**uality, but Sophie felt more betrayed by the lies than his actions.
Laura, 35, had a similar experience after seven years of marriage.
While using her husband’s laptop, she found an open tab for a gay dating site. When she asked him, he admitted to visiting the site but denied any physical involvement. Laura felt confused and hurt, eventually seeking counseling to cope with the betrayal.
A therapist explained that societal pressure on men to fit traditional roles often forces them to hide their true selves.
This internal struggle can lead to actions that hurt their partners. One woman summed it up: “The betrayal wasn’t the s**; it was the lying. If he had been honest, I would have understood.”
Hocking’s findings highlight the need for more acceptance, so people can explore their identities without fear of judgment or hurting others.
